(my internet connection was down, or that's say i didn't have acessabilty to internet- but now yah got a post finally)
So like I had told you something had been stirred up in the pan. Well let’s say it bluntly I found a family that I want to switch into. At first I was very unsure about the decision. The location is perfect it’s Castelldefells, I would live super close to the ocean (three blocks away kind of close). The town is 25 min with train from Barcelona but has all amenities needed: Many fitness studios, many shops, bars, people, even language schools, the ocean of course, a mall, it just is one convenient city to live in and Barcelona is very reachable as well. So as I am super sure about the location but there were a few details that I just weren’t sure about. As an example the money issue. The mother is single parent and can only give as much as she can. You know. So it’s 25 dollars less each week.. In a month that’s 100 euros less.. So it’s harsh, ey. But the family seems super nice, the boys are great, the mum sincerely cares for her boys and people and seems genuine. So these days have been very hard because my current host family was treating me pretty good and the girls, they love me. It’s hard- also because I don’t mean to screw over anyone. But this is the funny thing. Right when I wasn’t sure about the decision which would be better, farted the old but I guess always existing issues back in my face. Babysitting 4 times a week, Friday and Saturday included, extra hours here and there. This situation made me totally sure of my decision: I had asked the mum politely if I could help her in the kitchen with something. Which was meant in the moment with cooking or dishes or anything. She said you know what yes, and started snobbing at me, because I should be talking more English with her daughter. And I probably have to do extra hours on Saturdays with me studying (see she is totally giving me more and more working hours and doesn’t seem to care to give me free time). Then she complained about many other things, and this is the funny thing with her. At first her face is rude in her mimic and all the sudden she snaps out of it and starts being okay again. Which haha, I was told by the Au pair that knew my co-existing Au pair that my Au pair mum always yelled at her and was very rude to her. It’s crazy I didn’t know that. So as I just realize that it’s her attitude towards the Au pairs that will never allow me to feel totally comfortable, she has a weird way about them. Even if I would talk to her about having some more time, she feels like Au pairs have it great living with her. So I realized even talking won’t help. She often had told me that Aupairs had it very good with them, so I knew she just didn’t think that I worked too much. And I also knew that I will never totally feel 100 percent comfortable. So bah bah, this is my decision. Castelldefells! … vale easier thought then said, right, because I had to tell my current Family I was leaving soon. Eijaja, I already had procrastinated 1 week, and 2 other days, and this was really the final day I had to do it. So I started procrastinating again here an hour and there an hour. It was just soo hard. I feel like I am a person good of heart and don’t mean anyone bad. So I took all my breath and just said either you stay here or open your “usuallyalwayswideopened” mouth and do it. So I did it, the mum was mad, she didn’t let me talk, she didn’t understand that I did want to live in the center not in a little town, well let’s say it like that she didn’t even give a shhhh to hear me out. She just said okay when are u going, she was sooo rude I just couldn’t believe it. I felt like I was sooo respectful always towards her, I know they all loved me, but a reaction like this?! -- tziiiiisch that was some harsh haaarsh shhh.. I mean sorry for my language but really. I could give you so many examples and phrases she had said but, really totally ignored my sayings didn’t care for anything, just totally being rude to me. - when the teddy turns into a grizzle ey… I felt like I was talking to a 7 year old, ey.. So tell me - This obviously must have been the right decision if she has such a bad personality behind herself. Okay well this was the first night, maybe the other days would be better.. I up and left to pick the girl from her music school, I didn’t care that I was an half hour early I just needed to get the freak out of there seriously. So when I got back, she talked in front of the girls to me rudely again. The dad was okay, understood and was respectful and nice. I left for a night of “I just need to drink” attitude night- which was all I needed and more- super fun and got back in the morning. I had forgotten my key somewhere and now there is the next pile of poop. Ey, She opens my door rudely at 9 am, says in 15 minutes out in the kitchen. She was shaking she was so angry. Tell me why you are leaving I don’t buy your shit of why you are wanting to change families (that was almost her words) And I said that It was because of the location, yes also because of the time and working hours, but I also included that and said that the traveling around just didn’t give me the time I needed to have for myself and wanted to continue, but she just freaking didn’t care again and blared out her thoughts and was being just rude and attitudy Then she said I didn’t need to come home without the keys that I had forgotten. And bla bla bla.. So obviously she is just freaking mad and nothing is going to calm her horse. Ey… so I just excepted it, I said I was sorry and didn’t mean to step on anyone’s hands or feet, she didn’t care she said that I shouldn’t say I am sorry because it’s not my problem and was rude again. Left comments like “ And I bought you a sky teacher because I put in emotions into this relationship- which I am sure she usually doesn’t do at all- and said that that was just a waste. Seriously, I have been one of their best Au pairs by far. I have done soooo soo soo much for them. I have always been polite considerate, respectful. In all these troubled 2 days I have always kept my goals and values in mind and have been very respectful. Never have I ever disrespected them. So it’s really quite the little, amazing aspect to see the mother be this rude. The father is nice and seems to at least respect my choice. I think in a way he understands. When I had first talked to this family over the phone, she said these exact words: If it doesn’t work out then that is fine and we will find other solutions. Crazy… To give this mother the cherry on top, with hidden personality traits I hadn’t seen quite that bluntly or even expected them this harsh, she amazingly still acts like a child. So It’s 2.15 I am supposed to work at 3.30. I couldn’t get a hold of the person with my keys so I was f‘d. So I decided I needed to just ring the bell and tell her that I need to get the keys later from a friend. Huh, soo the car is there and no one is answering the door. So I left with my car and shortly after I left I received the phone call to meet up and get my keys. I sat down by Mas Roig , which is a little place “plaza” in Valldoreix. So as I was sitting there waiting for time to go by, because I sure wasn’t in a hurry to go back to “crazy, wild and emotional loaded” war games, so I sat it out by just talking. At 3.30 perfectly on the dot I got there. She asked, where the keys had been. I told her at a friends, she answered rudely with her head shaking again (this time it was just a “you little stupid, au pair” shaking head and said:” why did your friend have the keys”. Well because they fell out last night. That is why. She shook her head again, she was rolling her eyes. Was blaming me. I just politely said,” I am very sorry, I didn’t mean to forget them. I didn’t do it on purpose. I am sorry that you were worried about the keys” Her mimic changed again a bit, and was saying: “ well I am not blaming you, seriously switching a 180, right from what all she had just said before. So then she asks me if I had eaten down at Mas Roige, because she had seen me, when she had picked up her daughter from the bus. I said: “ No I had tried to get into the house, but no one answered the bell and opened me.” (this is all in front of the daughter-but of course I just said this politely in a not rude way or anything, just conversation material) So She asked, what time it was. I told her the time and she answered, well I did shower today. Hahaha, yes, I am sure she showered at 2.15 a half hour before she is picking up her daughter. This woman seriously would never spend a day not getting ready until 2.15 pm. And also the fact that there was food cooked and made. I mean who brought the food?- the catering service. So I am pretty sure she was standing in the kitchen cooking and did it because I obviously didn’t have the keys- we have this video camera thingy were you can see whose out by the gate. Can you imaging how childish this is. I feel like I am back in 5-6 grade when these games were done with friends. Being mean and rude to one another. But I just feel super uncomfortable and wish I could just up and leave. I am keeping my head high, higher then ever. I am doing just the same great job, or maybe even a bit more, all of my chores and even more, and am leaving this place with my head high. She has come down, and I think it is because I just didn’t bite into her cheese, her games, her rudeness. I have been an adult and I think she realized this. The girls are breaking my heart. They ask all these questions. “so how long will you be at this family for” then I reply: “until the end of the year and then I will see.” and then she says, “but didn’t you want to stay with us for 2 years maybe.” It is the saddest thing and I am so going to miss these two girls. I feel so bad for leaving the children. And it’s hard because they can’t really follow or understand why. So it’s sad. To all my backups, my Au pair friend and more that I have known, had left Au pair families before, because of location and stuff. And their families which they didn’t necessary like very much/ the Au pair families were rude to the Au pairs have all been understanding and respectful. So any ways, this is what has been going on. I am not sure if I brought her rudeness out enough. Because I really have been sooo super nice and doing all and more! - It’s rough to take in all her madness, it makes me feel like I hadn’t done a great job these past 2 months, but I know she had told her friends that I have been super great! So I mean, it’s sad it has to be this way, but at least I am not the one causing it to be this way- right?!
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